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Preparation Beats Reparation

Posted by On September - 30 - 2008
Greetings Gentle Reader,

Considering the financial news of the day, this might be a good times to discuss finances: We have been reminded on a regular basis that there always have been, and there always will be, tricky times in the financial world. The ticket for us is to be prepared. Unfortunately, that can be more easily said than done.

A good man of my acquaintance said that he had put himself through college by being a janitor, and now, he was putting his children through college by, once again, being a janitor. That dear man always had at least as many expenses as he had money. He will probably never become rich, but he has always had enough for his and his family’s needs. Such people learn to be frugal, and that frugality stands them in good stead, when the financial world gets the hiccups.

So, how about the rest of us? Have we learned to keep ourselves out of financial deep water, or do we tell ourselves (regularly and often) that it will be okay. After all, we know how to swim.
The one thing we may have forgotten to tell ourselves is the unpleasant fact that financial deep water tends to be full of sharks, and sharks really like naive swimmers. They make a tasty tidbit, and few of them have the financial expertise to recognize a shark, especially if he has a sufficiently charming smile, and a genteel manner.

Many sharks have promoted types of mortgages that are close to impossible to repay. Others are true professionals at convincing couples, especially young couples, that they really need new furniture. It’s not simply that they want it, but they truly need it.

Once upon a time, a friend told me their neighborhood had become so dangerous, with regular home invasions and the like, that they had sold their house and moved to a safe neighborhood. Unfortunately, the deteriorating circumstances in their original neighborhood had caused property values to drop, so they didn’t have enough money to buy their new house outright. That was unfortunate, but they compounded the problem by convincing themselves that their nice, new house needed nice, new furniture.

As a result they ended up with such an increase in expense that they continually struggled to avoid financial ruin. All other expenses were cut to a bare minimum, and still, they barely made it from month to month.

The temptation to declare bankruptcy is ever present, but it should only be indulged in the most extreme circumstances. A loss of employment can create conditions of dire poverty, as can catastrophic illness, but it is imperative that we avoid declaring bankruptcy, unless all else fails. The most important element in avoiding bankruptcy is a determination not to spend more money than we have. If we have ten dollars, never spend more than eight.

In today’s America, luxuries have become necessities, so we are going to have to retreat to the values of our parents and grandparents. They were pretty simple: If we can’t pay cash, we can’t afford it.

That may seem too simplistic, but it actually works, and nothing else does.

Until next time,
Muriel Sluyter

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The Second Coming and the Millenium

Posted by On September - 28 - 2008

Sacrament Meeting Talk given September 28, 2008

My husband Ben came home last Sunday and told me we had been asked to speak in sacrament and the topic was to be “The Second Coming and the Millennium.” Right away I thought about how I never get a topic I feel confident and knowledgeable in like “Procrastinating Your Scripture Study” or “Perfecting One-Minute Prayers”.

Honestly, I haven’t studied this topic much at all so it has been great opportunity for me to study the scriptures and the words of the living prophets. I read a fictional book series in high school about the rapture and end times. That’s pretty much the extent of my knowledge on the subject so first I decided to ask, “What is going to happen in the second coming?”

I found an answer in D&C 88:87, 91-92, 95-97, 110. These scriptures read:

For not many days hence and the earth shall tremble and reel to and fro as a drunken man; and the sun shall hide his face, and shall refuse to give light; and the moon shall be bathed in blood; and the stars shall become exceedingly angry, and shall cast themselves down as a fig that falleth from off a fig-tree…And all things shall be in commotion; and surely, men’s hearts shall fail them; for fear shall come upon all people. And angels shall fly through the midst of heaven, crying with a loud voice, sounding the trump of God, saying: Prepare ye, prepare ye, O inhabitants of the earth; for the judgment of our God is come. Behold, and lo, the Bridegroom cometh; go ye out to meet him…and the face of the Lord shall be unveiled; And the saints that are upon the earth, who are alive, shall be quickened and be caught up to meet him. And they who have slept in their graves shall come forth, for their graves shall be opened; and they also shall be caught up to meet him in the midst of the pillar of heaven…and Satan shall be bound, that old serpent, who is called the devil, and shall not be loosed for the space of a thousand years.”

I think it’s safe to imagine that the events and circumstances surrounding the Second Coming will be similar to when the Lord appeared to the Nephites in the Book of Mormon. The scriptures describe earthquakes, floods, calamities, and wickedness. Reading the accounts of these events taking place in an earlier time give a great example of how what we can expect and how we can deal with them as they come. When the Lord appears a lot of people will be filled with fear because they do not know what is happening. Indeed, it may be a scary time, but the righteous will see and know that what is happening if the fulfilling of promises.

The Saviors return will begin the 1000 years of righteousness and peace known as the Millennium. Satan will be bound and Christ will be in charge of world politics and will head the government. He will not always be on the earth but will instead travel back and forth, with the other resurrected beings, doing work both here and in the immortal world where he resides now. These are a few of the other things which will happen during the Millennium:

· The earth will be restored to its original glorified beauty as it was in the Garden of Eden.
· Everyday life will continue to be the same as it is now-We will still eat, drink, garden, and go to work. Things will still grow and there will still be a need for things to be built. The difference will be that all these things will be done with a purpose in righteousness.
· It’s important to know that the citizens of the Millennium will not all be members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. The population will consist of all the good and just people who have inhabited the earth. This will give us a wonderful opportunity to further the work of the Kingdom.
· During the Millennium it will be our privilege and responsibility to teach the gospel. Our two main goals will be missionary work and temple work. Temples will continue to be built and more family history work will be completed.
· For anyone who gets discouraged with family history work, it is encouraging to know that the job of the resurrected saints will be to help correct mistakes that have been made in our research and help us, through revelation, find more information until our family lines have been traced all the way back to Adam and Eve.
· The last thing I want to mention is that there will be no disease or death during the 1000 years-generations will live to an old age and then simply pass over to continue with furthering the work of the Lord.

At the end of the1000 years of righteous living we will have gained the strength to conquer Satan and will have the opportunity to prove that to ourselves and to the Lord when Satan is released on the earth again.

For this talk I have chosen not to say much about the signs and events leading up to the Second Coming of Christ to the Earth. When I do think of them, I choose to focus on the many positive things like the restoration of the Gospel, the bringing forth of the Book of Mormon, the coming of Elijah, the gospel being preached to all the world, and the building up of a righteous city. We can see that some of these things have already come to pass, and we will be able to put a quantitative finger on some of the others to know without a doubt that promises are being fulfilled and the end times are near. Also prophesied are the calamities, destructions, and horrors that we seem to be already seeing. We have to be aware of what is happening in the world around us, but it’s essential to be reading our newspapers and our scriptures hand in hand.

Shortly before he passed away, Neal A Maxwell wrote:

Prophetically, President Gordon B. Hinckley said to us at a recent general conference that current events in the world did not constitute the ‘all-consuming calamity.’ President Hinckley also cautioned: ‘Peace may be denied for a season…We may even be called on to suffer in one way or another…Our safety lies in repentance. Our strength comes of obedience to the commandments of God…This is the crux of the entire matter-obedience to the commandments of God.’”[i]

Our church leaders encourage us to not get bogged down in the tragedies of the world. Many saints will fall away during the events leading up to the coming of the Lord. If we keep our eyes on the Savior and follow his commands we can use the events in the world as an opportunity for service.

Elder Bernard P. Brockbank wrote:

The Church of Jesus Christ is never again to be taken from the earth. This is one of the great signs of the times-it shall continue to grow and flourish and cover the earth. The Holy Ghost and the priesthood of God will continue to be on the earth. There shall be in the last days living prophets and living apostles chosen and called by Jesus Christ.”[ii]

We can find courage and hope in knowing that the days on earth without the priesthood power are past. From this point forward we will always have righteous servants of the Lord to follow and boost us up.

My last thought on the Second Coming and the Millennium is that we each need to have courage to do our best to live righteously so that our children may live righteously. D&C 45:57-58 reads:

For they that are wise and have received the truth, and have taken the Holy Spirit for their guide, and have not been deceived-verily I say unto you, they shall not be hewn down and cast into the fire, but shall abide the day. And the earth shall be given unto them for an inheritance; and they shall multiply and wax strong, and their children shall grow up without sin unto salvation.”

If I had the ability to bring about the Second Coming tomorrow, I would do it-not for me, but so that my son Beck would not have to grow up in our increasingly sinful world. Obviously, this is not in my powers and he needs to have the opportunity to grow and learn here. What we can do is try to live righteously in hopes of not only finding ourselves in the last days, or the ancestors whom we do the work for, but also the generations of our families yet to come who will have the opportunity to live in a world and a time without sin which is presented to them because of the choices we have made today.

I bear you my testimony, brothers and sisters, that Jesus Christ lives and he will return to the Earth one day. I have a testimony of the plan that Heavenly Father has given us that enables us to live with our families eternally. I share these things with you in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.[1]

[1] This talk was prepared from the Gospel Topics section on LDS.org. Search: Second Coming & Millennium. Material found there included references from the magazines listed below, Gospel Principles, and Gospel Doctrine manuals.

[i] “These Are Your Days,” Ensign, Oct. 2004, 26-31
[ii]
“The Leaves Are Commencing to Show on the Fig Tree,” Ensign, May 1976, 74

The Most Destructive Force of All

Posted by On September - 26 - 2008
Greetings, Gentle Reader,

What do you think is the most destructive force or event, so far as the health of your family is concerned? There are a lot of candidates. Bad friends, drug and/or alcohol addiction, inattentive parents, an irresponsible parent, abusive parents, an unfaithful parent, predatory friends or relatives, etc.

Actually, it is probably none of the above. The most destructive thing I have seen in my years and in my experience is divorce of the parents. Now, I have to qualify that at least a little bit. The actions of the custodial parent are tremendously important. If that parent is stable, supportive, constructive and in charge, the children may not do too badly, but if they end up with the least responsible of the two parents, they are in for a very rough ride. Even worse, they are probably in for a rough life, as are their own future children and marriage partner.

Unfortunately, if the non-custodial parent is disruptive, irresponsible and demanding of visitation by the children, and if an uninterested and/or irresponsible judge forces the children to visit that parent, then those children are going to suffer extreme and usually permanent damage. It is not uncommon for such children to rebel against both the custodial parent and society in general during their teen years, and this is especially the case if the non-custodial parent is a deliberate instigator.

If the family has been a stable, nourishing family during the early years of their various offsprings’ childhood, the older children may not do too badly, but the younger ones often become self-destructive and/or predatory.

When these children grow up, it will be very hard for some of them, perhaps most of them, to be a responsible partner in a marriage. Perhaps the worst thing they have learned is that divorce is the proper solution to difficulties in marriage. Instead of determinedly sticking it out when the going gets tough, and it will, too many of them will head for the divorce court. Then one more generation of innocent children, their own, will become the victims of that parent’s destructive attitude toward the vicissitudes of life, especially married life.

We parents must realize how real and destructive the effects of divorce are on children, then we must make sure our behavior toward our mate is not such that it will cause the tragedy of divorce. Our words are the most destructive in the early stages of a marriage, so we must learn to speak kindly and respectfully to our mate at all times, and we must learn the words, “I’m sorry.”

Then we must concentrate on being unselfish, because selfishness tends to be the root of so much marital unhappiness. Next, we must work on being responsible. That is something that will grow as we go through the years. It just seems to be a part of becoming mature, but the sooner we start it, the sooner we will get there.

If we want the best for our children, and almost all of us do, then we must make sure to be the best marriage partner. That way our children stand a very good chance of growing up secure, contented, steady and responsible in their own right. Most parents can’t ask for more than that.

Until next time,
Muriel Sluyter

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Street Venders

Posted by On September - 26 - 2008

I have wanted to do this post for a long time. I have lots of pictures but I don’t know if pictures can ever give you the true flavor of what the street vender situation is like here. There are both good and bad aspects to this whole enterprise from my perspective and there are political issues that I am not a part of, nor do I appreciate all of the complexities nor do I understand the whole situation. The Venders are both an asset and a liability, they fill a need but can create problems. There are several different types of venders. Let’s start with the upscale food cart venders.

There are two on this corner just down from us. There are well over 1000 (could be as many as 2000) people who work in the offices of our little 4 block stretch. Each morning these two help to feed them. The closest one is a juice vender and makes the juice right on the spot (fresh juice is one of the wonderful things about this city. There is an abundance of fruit of all kinds and many restaurants, and families as well as street venders make fresh juice. The guy behind him specializes in fresh cut fruit. You can buy plastic glasses full of a large variety of fruit. Mango is particularly difficult for Darwin and I to keep in our apartment because it has a strong smell when just sitting around even if it is fresh, not rotten and ripening. So although we love mango we don’t buy it from a store and peel and prepare it ourselves. We buy it already cut and ready to eat from a vender when we want some. The first picture below is of two plastic cups of mango. It cost us a little less than .50 a cup. A little less then $1.00 for the 2 cups.
The picture above is of a snack food vender. For every one regular food, fruit or coconut, or hot food vender there are 5 or 6 snack food venders. They sell chips and cookies and candy and sometimes pop. Also nearly all venders of whatever kind sell cell phone minutes. There are even some venders that have cell phones on chains and sell time on them to make calls right on the street at the vender booth. The cart behind this vender is a supply wagon. It is on a bicycle and you can see these guys resupplying some of the snack food venders through out the day.

The above two are two of our favorite venders. They have a cart under a tree right on the corner of 100 and 11th just in front of the Chevrolet dealership. There are several other venders on that corner but this pair sells arepas filled with beef and mushrooms and cheese kept hot by a charcoal grill and they do a very good business. The arepas cost 3 mil (3,000 pasos) each. That is about $1.50 each. Darwin and I usually stop and get aprepas and take them to our apartment to eat about once every other week.

These guys now know us and greet us like we are regular customers along with all the rest crowding in to buy. They have a great repeat business. One of them does the cooking and the other one handles the money. The cook always has gloves on and the operation is very clean. When they see us coming all we have to do now is nod and they know exactly what we want and how we want it.

The spots where venders put their carts are an interesting story. There is kind of a code among the venders. You have to have your cart where it is supposed to be by a certain time but if you do, no one else is going to try to take your spot. Spots are actually bought and sold (and that is one of the problems that the government is trying to control- keep reading to find out more about that little situation)

What follows are several photographs of the more upscale food type carts. Hot food, cold food and everything in between can be found on the street. I have not yet seen live chickens or cuts of beef or pork, but we have seen live snails. (see below)




In addition to food, all kinds of hand crafts and convenience items are sold on the streets. It is like a cross between a farmers market and the stuff at the checkout stands at walmart or home depot. These venders sometimes use carts but more often display their wares on pieces of plastic or a blanket on the ground or on card board display racks that are leaned against a wall. This type of vender is found mostly in high traffic areas. They make walking on the street interesting because you are constantly avoiding the venders wares.


In addition to venders who really are trying to sell a product there are the assorted beggars and street people. Most people here are extremely clean and wonderfully open and friendly whether they are well off or poor. However, there is a group of beggars and street people who are not clean and can be very persistent when begging to the point of invoking a curse upon you if you don´t give them something. Others on the street are less aggressive and just seem lost and confused much like the street people in the US some of whom are mentally ill. The same situation exits here. There is one man on our way home who begs and struggles with voices at the same time and one woman who has made kind of a cave out of construction debris. I keep wondering what will happen to her when the construction project finishes and they move the stuff that she has used to make a house.

Below are some pictures of venders that actually vend in the street between the cars. When ever a taxi or car or bus stops for a light, or for whatever reason, there are venders in the street trying to sell you things through the car, bus or taxi windows.





The round blue things that the guy in both of these pictures is carrying are world globes. They vend anything and everything on the street and in the street.


The government can see that a thriving business is going on in the street and they have no way to regulate it or collect taxes on the items sold. The food you buy on the street is cheaper than what you can get in a restaurant because the venders don´t pay taxes and charge less. For that reason and many others (including that the venders can be a nuisance and danger on the street) and other reasons that I am sure I don´t understand, the government is trying to bring the venders under control. They have installed Kiosks on all the main streets and many back streets. (picture of Kiosks below). Each Kiosk will have place for at most 4 venders and will be locked up at night so they have a place for their stuff. However, there are many more venders on the street than the kiosks will accommodate and we are not sure how the space in the kiosks is being allocated. It could be that the venders currently on the street will be moved out and not have a chance for a kiosk spot. However it is done, they are saying that they want it accomplished before the end of Oct. because, in places, the venders double or triple during the Christmas season and they want it accomplished before this happens again. We are somewhat ¨preocupado¨ ie worried about what is going to happen and how it is going to happen and how it will affect us. (Will it be dangerous to walk or ride the buses, will our favorite venders get the boot, will the streets be the same without all the smells and tastes and interesting things, will the price of things rise?) We are not overly worried or cowering in our apartment, in fact we are out and about waiting and watching with the rest of the city. We will keep you informed.

A Child, Alone

Posted by On September - 14 - 2008

From time to time we hear on the news how a parent or guardian has abandoned their child. This summer in Salt Lake there were several different accounts of parents locking their kids in the car and running off to run errands or catch a movie while their child overheated in the vehicle-sometimes leading to fatal extremes. Other times we hear of children being dropped off and left or a child who’s parents leave and never come home. Fortunately, in most circumstances, we don’t feel a personal connection to those stories. This week, however, I caught a small glimpse into the eyes of my own child and was remarkably saddened to think of the little boy or girl who’s parents walk away.

Monday is my cleaning day. Last Monday Beck was playing and I was trying to do the laundry. We live in a basement apartment and our laundry room is upstairs on the landlord’s back porch. I almost always throw Beck on top of the dirty clothes in the clothes basket and tote him up to the washer & dryer with me, but this particular moment he was content with what he was doing and I knew I wasn’t going to be long. I ran up the stairs to switch my laundry loads and hurried back to the stairs as quickly as I could. As I came around the corner and started down the stairs my eyes fell upon Beck waiting for me at the bottom. His blond curls on his tiny head were leaning out the door, his big eyes were sparkling, and he wore a humongous grin. I chuckled out loud as I hurried down to scoop him up and give him a big hug. He knew I had gone and trusted that I would be right back. He knew he wasn’t allowed to go up the stairs without me, so he excitedly waited at the bottom to see me reappear. That’s exactly what the faith of a child teaches us to do.

As I hugged Beck and we walked back inside I began to think about stories I’d heard recently of children being abandoned for both long and short periods of time. Every child is born with faith to trust the people who love and take care of them. Tears began to well up as I imagined the faces of innocent children, with the same trust in their eyes, watching their loved ones walk away and anticipating their speedy return. I want to know how long children stay where they are before their lips begin to quiver and they start to wonder what happened to mommy and daddy. My heart aches to think of Beck waiting so long that he falls asleep in the middle of the doorway or gets bored and goes back to his toys until gets hungry, or thirsty, or needs his diaper changed.

I’m getting better at putting Beck down for his afternoon nap and leaving him there whether he falls asleep or not. I know he needs time to wind down and be quiet and rest-and quite frankly, I need that too. It was hard at first to listen to him cry and call, “Mommy,” but I know it’s best for him and after a few days we developed an understanding that after he had rested, Mommy would come back to get him up. It still breaks my heart to hear him crying and I peek in on him from time to time to make sure he’s not just staring at the door, but usually he quickly finds his monkeys and puppies and lays down to have a quiet conversation with them before succumbing to a good long nap. I imagine that most children, if left long enough, will find themselves asleep and resting. I can’t imagine having my child wake up and not have someone come in shortly to pick him up and tell him that he’s loved. I don’t want to know how a child entertains themselves until somebody happens to come looking for them.

That brings to mind, too, the stories we sometimes hear of children saving their parents by calling 911 or, more sadly, not being able to help a parent who has a medical emergency and loses consciousness or even dies with only a child there to watch. What a sad thing to see your parent not responding or able to get up and help you in anyway. I’m thinking of one story in particular where the mother had passed out and her young child, after not being able to get mommy’s attention, curled up on the floor next to her and fell asleep. Somebody stopped by hours later and found the two of them laying on the living room floor-sleeping child wrapped in the arms of her mother who had passed away.

Our children love and trust us and for that we can be eternally grateful.

Ben and I watched the Italian movie Life is Beautiful this weekend. I had never seen it and was a little surprised when he recommended it with such high praise. I’m truly glad he did. It has given me thoughts and emotions to act as a balance against these sad thoughts swirling around in my head.

The movie takes place in WWII Italy and involves an Italian woman and a Jewish man who marry and have a child together. The man is quite creative and spontaneous and a little ridiculous and it’s fun to watch them courting and beginning their little family. Then he and his son are taken and put onto train cars bound for Hitler’s abhorrent concentration camps. In a touching way, the plot twists for a moment while the woman becomes the character wearing her heart on her sleeve and insists on riding on the train wherever it is going.

The love of this man for his son was overwhelming. From the moment they were taken his only desire was to protect his son from fear and the awful reality of what was happening. They were suffering greatly, but his son did not need to know. The man continued to be creative and spontaneous and went from being ridiculous to being brave. His son did have moments of fear and doubt and sadness, but his father determined to be there for him every step of the way. Even while taking his last march, the man’s focus and goal was on his family and getting them through the horror so they could once again see the color and light and blessing of life.

Most parents I know would give everything to protect their children from harm and evil. I don’t know anybody heartless enough to turn and walk away from the loving upturned eyes of their children. On the contrary, I’m blessed to have people like my sister Brooke and my sisters-in-law Callie and Angie, who embody the spirit and action of the Jewish man in Life is Beautiful. In their everyday lives they are full of life and creativity and sometimes are just a little bit ridiculous. They are inspiring (and a little bit intimidating) and show me a better way to be.

Children are an incredible blessing. Having a family and raising my own child is an incredible blessing to me. My prayers are filled with hope and love for anybody who is suffering, but especially for the lonely child who is wondering when their parent is going to come back home.

La famille et l’Église Mormon

Posted by On September - 8 - 2008

Une chose qui devient claire pour l’esprit éclairé c’est qu’il y a des lois qui maintiennent l’équilibre de la vie et des êtres vivants. La découverte et le respect des lois de la physique apportent le progrès, permettent à l’homme de s’élever à des niveaux de connaissance autrement impossibles.

Je crois que ce principe s’applique aussi aux valeurs morales. Nous avons, par conséquent, la responsabilité de sauvegarder le foyer comme centre d’apprentissage où ces vertus peuvent être instillées, dans une atmosphère d’amour et par le pouvoir de l’exemple. Les scientifiques acquièrent leurs connaissances principalement par des recherches, en faisant des expériences et en utilisant leur intelligence.

Les disciples du Christ reçoivent leur témoignage en étudiant ses paroles, en observant ses œuvres, en mettant les principes de l’Évangile en pratique et en recevant l’esprit d’inspiration.

« Dans l’homme, c’est l’esprit, le souffle du Tout-Puissant, qui donne l’intelligence. »

Les vérités spirituelles peuvent paraître moins tangibles, mais pour le cœur humble leur impact est indéniable. Il est important de comprendre que les lois naturelles n’ont pas été déterminées sur la base de la popularité. Elles ont été établies et reposent sur le roc de la réalité.

Il y a aussi des vérités morales qui n’ont pas commencé avec l’homme. Elles sont au centre d’un plan divin qui, lorsque nous le découvrons et l’appliquons, nous apporte beaucoup de bonheur et d’espoir dans la condition mortelle11.

Par exemple, je crois, comme il est indiqué dans la « Déclaration au monde sur la famille » et défini dans les révélations divines, que le mariage et la famille sont ordonnés de Dieu. Les Écritures déclarent : « C’est pourquoi l’homme quittera son père et sa mère, et s’attachera à sa femme, et ils deviendront une seule chair. »Des hommes sages du passé nous ont transmis un patrimoine de connaissance. Nous devons transmettre aux générations futures un fondement de foi en la famille, défini par la Divinité.

Nous ne devons jamais oublier que la liberté et le bonheur dans tous les aspects de la vie viennent de la compréhension et de l’application des principes éternels de l’Évangile. Ils fournissent un fondement sûr sur lequel édifier une vie productive et heureuse.

(Rétablir la foi en la famille, Kenneth Johnson, du premier collège des soixante-dix, 178e conférence générale d’avril 2008)

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A Heavenly Scare

Posted by On September - 3 - 2008

I can’t believe I quit writing so quickly after the beginning of the year-New Year’s Resolutions…aargh! I’m not feeling inspired to write anything insightful, but I want to keep trying to make writing a habit, so today I’m going to copy down a journal entry I wrote a few weeks ago…

We had a scary experience last night (8/16). We went camping at Hope Campground up the Provo Canyon. Beck had so much fun walking around & playing with sticks & rocks. He wore his flannel to match Daddy, but then Daddy didn’t bring his flannel (or any warm clothes).

After our dinner of shrimp & crab we laid Beck down in our tent. To our surprise he barely whimpered & fell right to sleep. After too many s’mores we also crawled in bed. Unfortunately the tent zippers woke Beck up & he felt his 2 1/2 hour nap was good enough. He exploded into hyper sleep-deprived mode. It was cute & funny for about 10 minutes before we realized he wasn’t going to calm down. He was crawling over us, scratching, pulling hair & falling down with his head smacking the ground. He wasn’t safe to himself.

Ben finally had too much and we decided maybe Beck needed familiarity. Ben took him to the car and put him in his carseat. A long while later they returned to the tent, but neither of their moods had changed. Beck was still out of control and Ben was exhausted and at his wits’ end. We tried to ignore Beck but he was inflicting pain on us and himself.

Finally I told Ben to just go strap him in the car and crack the window open. My hope was that he’d tire himself out quickly but in a confined space where he’d be safe. Also he’d be away from us. I had a bad feeling about putting him in the car. He’d be away from us, but then I thought that he always sleeps in his own room away from us. There are always horror stories on the news of kids being left in cars and I was thinking of how warm the car might get before he woke up in the morning. Also I didn’t want him sitting in the car and thinking we had left him. Ben took him and I told myself he’d be fine only 50 feet away with the window open so we could hear him. We went to sleep and it seemed like Beck had accepted it and went straight to sleep.

Some time later I was pulled out of sleep by faint crying. There had been a crying baby further away and I thought it was her until the crying didn’t stop. I told Ben that Beck was crying and asked if he’d locked the car. He barely muffled a sleepy no. I hurried out of my sleeping bag and out of the tent. I had to go around to the far side of the car and as I opened the door I looked for Beck in his carseat. He wasn’t there. In the dark I could barely make out anything and Beck’s cries still sounded muffled. I looked around quickly and there face-down on the floor was my baby.

In the way time often is during panic mode, the next 30 seconds happened in slow motion. The front seat was reclined and I fumbled to get it out of the way before I could get to Beck. Confused and scare I wondered why Ben put him to sleep on the floor before I realized Beck hadn’t been strapped in and had fallen on the floor. As I picked him up I feared the worst and prepared myself for blood and a broken nose or worse. Straining in the moonlight to see, I scooped Beck up and wrapped him in his blanket. He instantly cuddled into me and, with his binkie, went back to sleep. I carried him back to the tent and carefully laid him down with love and safety between his parents.

I told Ben what had happened and asked why he hadn’t strapped Beck in. At the time I was seething mad and couldn’t believe my husband could be so selfishly careless. He voiced to me that he’d thought Beck would be okay and was thinking to himself, “Well, why didn’t you tell me to strap him in.”

By wings of a prayer we got home very late and still showered and made it to 1:00 church with time to spare. As I sat through the meetings the events played themselves out in my mind again and again. I finally found peace as I realized that our son is protected. I believe the Lord tried to tell me there was trouble ahead. He knew beforehand that Ben would not strap him in and tried to warn me. Ben had the same promptings and also decided it would be okay because it was like sleeping in his room. I don’t know what happened in the car. Maybe Beck used the reclined chair as a stair and climbed down onto the floor. Maybe he slid out of his chair like he does when we get him out. Or maybe he fell out as he groped around in the dark. What I do know now is that when his parents had failed him, the hand of the Lord protected him. I now that Beck found a cushion beneath him and loving arms around him. I know that when he was scared, his Heavenly Father comforted him and with patience called out again to tell me my son was in need.

I’m grateful for the Savior who has allowed for repentance after neglect. I am glad for a loving Heavenly Father who understands and wants us to succeed. I’m especially grateful that the Lord knows my son and holds him up in his time of need.