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photo by Matt Cook It is known news that The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormons) contributed much to stop gay marriage from becoming legal in California. However, most people do not understand fully why we are against it. I will address common questions concerning Mormons and their opposition to gay marriage. Are Mormons against gay people?No. As the expression goes, we “hate the sin, not the sinner.” That creed applies to any person struggling with sin, not just gay people. What we disapprove of is the homosexual lifestyle. There are members of our Church who are homosexual yet as worthy as heterosexual members because they do not participate in that lifestyle. Elder Holland said, “Let me make it clear that attractions alone, troublesome as they may be, do not make one unworthy. The First Presidency has stated, ‘There is a distinction between immoral thoughts and feelings and participating in either immoral heterosexual or any homosexual... Read the rest of this entry »

In a recent sacrament meeting someone mentioned the idea of making the standards our own. The context was the 13th article of faith, the new Mutual theme for the year. By making standards our own, the speaker was not suggesting that we each develop our own set, but that we adopt the Lord’s standards as ours. As I thought about making the standards our own, I thought about something Sister Allred mentioned in a Relief Society leadership meeting my wife attended a few months ago. She suggested a better title for For The Strength of Youth (the standards pamphlet) would be For The Strength of You because it has value for all church members, not just the youth. (Our local RS president must have taken this to heart. This month’s mid-week RS meeting is one in which our ward’s young men and young women presented For The Strength of Youth to the Relief Society.) In John, 17:7 we read, “If any man will do his will, he shall know of the doctrine, whether it be of God,... Read the rest of this entry »

 ldsclipart.com  Sacrament meeting is the most important hour of the week. It is the reason we attend church. And yet, it seems to be when we are the most irreverent. During sacrament meeting, people are talking, texting, sleeping, eating, preparing lessons, reading scriptures, and playing with babies. What’s worse is when these things go on during the actual passing of the sacrament, the time we should be thinking of Christ, His Atonement, and the covenants we made. It is the time to reflect on our week, repent of our mistakes, and promise to improve. We should also be reverent during the talks. You all know how daunting it is to go up there. We should give the speakers our respect and attention, no matter how boring or “bad” the talk is. As John Bytheway notes in his talk “The Best Three Hours of the Week,” we decide what we get out of church. There is no such thing as a bad talk; we can always come away with something if we are listening... Read the rest of this entry »

This is the first of a few essays that will be broadly linked. In this one, I explore the idea that we need to align ourselves with God instead of trying to make Him into what we want Him to be. Have you ever met anyone who said, “I could never believe in a God who _____________,” and then filled in the blank with the thing they could not tolerate. This attitude strikes me as odd. Perhaps it’s my father’s voice in my head that causes my discomfort. My family joined the church in the late 1960′s; I was the youngest of my parents’ four children and we were all baptized together. My parents had been very active in their protestant church prior to our joining the Mormons, but my father had expressed his concern about our church’s changing because of social changes at the time. My father’s view was that if God is God, and if He does not change, then the church should not vote about what was true this year or not. For my father, God was a... Read the rest of this entry »

Do you hold yourself to a higher standard than you do others? Sometimes I think I do, and I wonder if I should. I tell myself I do it out of tolerance, and in an effort not to judge. But do I? I grew up LDS (from about age 9) in a non-LDS community. Except for my sisters, I was usually the only Mormon in my school, and the older I got, the more divergent my standards (or better said in those early days, my family’s standards) were from those of my friends and classmates. Now in the professional world, I work with very few church members, so I am in the same boat. Even among church members, some of us attend more regularly; some go to the temple more often (and some don’t go); some are more consistent about holding Family Home Evening than others, and so on. My parents never taught me to have friends only in the church. It would have been difficult to do so as I was the only boy my age at church. But even if I had many friends at church, my folks would not have wanted me... Read the rest of this entry »

Certain TV shows and previews reminded me of a quote from Sister Margaret Nagauld: “Women of God can never be like women of the world. The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.” We need to be classy women–women with manners, discipline, integrity, virtue, sincerity, and charity. Sister Nagauld isn’t the only one to have said this: 1. “It is, unfortunately, all too easy to illustrate the confusion and distortion of womanhood in contemporary society. Immodest, immoral, intemperate women jam the airwaves, monopolize magazines, and slink across movie screens—all while being celebrated by the world.... Read the rest of this entry »

Read this article. And we wonder why girls as young as eleven are losing their virginity and why there are so many sexual predators out there. The company argues the padding is for modesty. On the one hand, that is understandable. My little sister went through puberty very early, and my mom had a hard time finding a little-girl bathing suit that covered my sister completely. On the other hand, if parents are so worried about modesty, why are they letting their little girls wear bikinis, especially if they are starting to blossom at a young age? Why can’t little girls just be little girls? They’ll have the rest of their lives to be grown women. Childhood lasts only for a brief moment. And once it’s over, most everyone wishes at some time or other that they could go back. I apologize this isn’t actually a doctrinal post. But this problem of sexualizing our little girls really bothers me. As members of the Church, we must set the example and dress our children modestly... Read the rest of this entry »

My Relief Society president shared that her biggest fear is her sons viewing pornography. It is sad she has to fear this, especially since her sons are only four and five. But my former bishop shared–to my shock and dismay–that nowadays it is at this young and innocent age that many boys get trapped into the sticky web of pornography. Knowing the lifestyle of this woman and her family, I am confident she will succeed in raising young men who do not actively search for X-rated material. However, pornography is not always directly labeled so. It comes in many forms and levels; thus, it is important to learn to recognize and avoid all of them. “Pornography is any entertainment that uses immodest or indecent images to stimulate sexual feelings,” explains a New Era article featured on the new Church Web site. “So even a mainstream television program or advertisement can be pornographic. If images trigger sexual feelings in you, you should avoid them.” The... Read the rest of this entry »

Friday evening I went to the temple with a friend. I had not gone in a long while, and I forgot the incredible peace I always feel there. I want to return soon to feel it again. But I don’t have to wait until I attend the temple to feel that joy. There is another place where I can feel it every day: my home. “Temples are literally houses of the Lord. They are holy places of worship where the Lord may visit. Only the home can compare with temples in sacredness” (True to the Faith, 170). “There exists a righteous unity between the temple and the home,” Elder Stevenson reminded us in General Conference April 2009. “Understanding the eternal nature of the temple will draw you to your family; understanding the eternal nature of the family will draw you to the temple.” The purpose of the temple is to provide saving ordinances, all of which lead to the ultimate ordinance of uniting families. The home, the place of family growing and gathering, should... Read the rest of this entry »

Growing up I heard a lot of talk about how bad going strapless was. Being a male, I really didn’t think to much about it. However, I think about it a lot nowadays, with three daughters in my home. I have come to wonder what modesty really is. In a previous post I outlined what [...]  Read More →

The fourth commandment is to keep the Sabbath day holy. In order to do so, we must first examine our motivation for doing certain activities. Are we reading our biology textbook because we love to study about God’s creations or because we procrastinated our homework all weekend? We must be sure that the reason we do something we normally wouldn’t do on Sunday is that it is necessary or unavoidable. President Kimball wrote in an Ensign article, “The Savior knew that the ox falls in the mire, and one must pull the ox from the mire when necessary. But no one deliberately puts the ox in the mire every week, or lets him get in the mire with no effort to keep him out.” This may seem hard when we want to play all weekend. President Kimball noted, “Sometimes Sabbath observance is characterized as a matter of sacrifice and self-denial, but it is not so. It is merely a matter of scheduling and choosing seasons. There is time enough, particularly in our era of the world’s... Read the rest of this entry »

I love watching movies! At home on the couch, at the theater, with friends, with family, in sickness or in health–it’s all fun! But risky as well. Risky, that is, to my spirituality if I am not careful with what I choose to view. During high school, I used my best friend and a newspaper column as movie screeners. Then a former seminary teacher introduced me to a great Web site and a friend showed me another one. Both are free with a list of movies from about 15 years ago to current releases. [Click on the name for the link to the site.] Screenit: This Web site gives a short and full summary of the movie plot and the content, divided into categories. I like this site because it is very explicit: I know what language is in the movie and how many times it occurs. Note: In order to review movies before the release date, you must become a member. Kids in Mind: This site is similar to screenit, but somewhat less extensive (especially in the movie summary and language department).... Read the rest of this entry »